Every woman, in an attempt to create a harmonious union with a man, faces various personal and social taboos. Is it worth it to refuse them – we understand together with the psychologist and sexologist Julia Palovsky.
As a rule, most of the prohibitions are just banal prejudices, collectively shaped social fears. Of course, the area on which the lion’s share of all taboos has fallen is sex. You can find out about some of them and how relevant they are for you in this article.
1. Sex on the first date
Speaking about the fact that for many women under the ban on sex, the first place should be put the ban on sex itself on the first date. Fear of looking easily accessible or, worse, slutty. This is what stops many ladies on the threshold of intimacy.
In fact, the probability of whether your sex with a man will be the first and last do not depend at all on whether it happens on the first day of the meeting or after a couple of months of the candy-bouquet period.
2. You can’t refuse
The next most terrible taboo, when a woman has the goal of building a strong relationship, is “you can’t refuse when a man says he wants to.” It is explained by a woman’s fear that a man will certainly change if he does not receive a response from his partner to his request.
Perhaps someone will be surprised, but men themselves do not always want when they offer.
Initially, you should not turn intimacy with your loved one into a daily routine duty on demand. Otherwise, you will strive to satisfy the man with your reliability, while he will consider that you simply absolutely need it. And often for men, sex also becomes a routine, which he decides to do with established regularity in order to prove that he is a man.
3. Oral caresses
From childhood, the girl is taught that you can’t take everything in your mouth, that it is intended for food. But sex in the first place in order to have children. And now, in the mature age of sexual consent, the beloved man asks to caress his penis with his mouth. At this point, patterns break. On the one hand, a mouth for eating, and on the other, a sexual organ. This is in the subconscious of many women, two planes of meaning that never cross.
Remember that the intimate life of a couple can only be mutually enjoyable if you fully accept both your body and the body of your partner, including all of its most intimate parts.
4. Intimacy in the light
Refusing to have sex in good light, women attribute this to their shyness.
The true reason usually lies in the rejection of one’s body.
Do not think that a man does not notice your imperfections when you are dressed.
He notices.
But, for example, your couple of extra pounds or disproportion in the figure, he just admires and excites!
If your partner insists on bright lighting, then he really likes everything that he wants to see!
5. Masturbation during sex in a couple
If your partner asks you to include an element of self-satisfaction in your joint sex, this is a normal desire that will only increase mutual pleasure.
It is important to understand that this is an opportunity to give your partner a map of the most familiar to you, activated erogenous zones and positions that are as sensual as possible.
6. You can’t make comments to a man in bed
Sex with a loved one is always a collaboration.
Of course, you should not blame your partner for doing something categorically wrong.
But at the same time, you can always stop a man if something is unpleasant for you, and suggest how you would like.
By correcting the actions of your partner and being interested in his frank desires, you can bring your intimate leisure to the most pleasant idyll for you.
7. Sex during menstruation
If a woman is completely healthy and her period of menstruation is as comfortable as possible, and the partner does not feel discomfort in the presence of specific secretions, the couple can safely enter into intimacy. There is nothing malicious in this. But it is worth remembering that during the period of menstruation in the flora of the vagina, all latent infections become aggravated and protective functions decrease. A couple is at the highest possible risk of infection if it turns out that one of the partners is unhealthy.
It is worth paying due attention to regular preventive examinations by a gynecologist and andrologist since most of the infections can be in both the female and male body for years, without making themselves felt.
8. Sex in front of children
The intimate life of a couple does not end when children appear in the house. It is worth noting that in the first couple of months of a baby’s life, sex is permissible even in his presence. This will help the child to form the right attitude towards sex on a subconscious level. There will be an understanding that this is a pleasant process that occurs between a loving man and woman. As an adult, such a person will not encounter problems in intimate life.
It is also important that older children understand that their parents have a sensual bodily relationship. If this topic is not a taboo in the family, then the teenager will not have the desire to break it thoughtlessly as soon as possible.
Summing up, I would like to emphasize that sex is always the most meaningful dialogue in a couple. When placing template taboos in your intimate life, remember that only what is unpleasant for you and your partner can be banned specifically for your couple. Be happy, it suits you!
