ETIQUETTE SCHOOL FOR A CHILD: TOP 5 SKILLS

What rules of etiquette should be instilled in a child from childhood? After all, a cultured person quickly disposes of himself, it is pleasant to deal with him. But they are not born like that – they become like that. Where to start?

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How to instill good manners in a child? First of all, by example. If dad thanks mom loudly every time for a delicious dinner, and mom accompanies her requests with a polite “please”, this is much more effective than a strict “What should I say after eating?” or “Have you forgotten how well-mannered people behave?” In other words, the message should be “Do as I do”, not “Do as I say”. However, sometimes this is not enough. And you have to put in the extra effort.

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Toddlers copy the behavior of adults and learn the “magic” words and rules. They learn to say hello and goodbye, to thank, to apologize, to wish good morning, good night, to behave culturally at the table.

With the first achievements, the first problems appear – the so-called crisis of three years.

The child actively learns the world, marks for himself the boundaries of what is permitted, and tests them for strength. Yes, he knows what is good and what is bad, but for some reason, he suddenly starts to fight, refuses to say “thank you”, takes away toys from other children. It’s annoying and sometimes embarrassing.

However, the correct response is calmness and consistency. Strictly, but in an even quiet voice, explain that educated people do not act like this, it is insulting, impolite, not good.

And of course, you can’t scold one time for misconduct, and then get away with everything or laugh at it as something funny. Good behavior should be noted: “I like what you did. You are a polite boy, you did the right thing by saying hello to the concierge.

Starting from the age of three or four, the child actively communicates with peers, becomes a witness to not very beautiful everyday scenes. One did not say “please”, another pushed, the third took the toy away. With complaints about injustice, the kid turns to adults. This is not the hurtful snitch of an older age when the complainer wants punishment for the offender. This is an attempt to understand what is happening: why is his friend doing this?

Parents should not scold the sneak. It’s better to try to resolve the crumbs’ doubts: “Yes, Seryozha pushed you, it’s not good to do that. He must have forgotten how to behave.

Delicate approach

Another characteristic of kindergarteners is their unwillingness to share their belongings. During our childhood, we were taught: “To be greedy is bad.” Now psychologists are not so categorical. After all, a favorite toy for a baby is a piece of his little “I”. How to give it to some boy? Of course, you need to teach your child to share but do it gently and delicately. Invite him to play with the guys in his toys, change for a while. And let him simply not take his favorite ones to the playground or to a group, so as not to offend his friends and not be upset himself. By the way, children who feel lonely feel a special attachment to things. So, if the baby does not part with the teddy bear and does not allow anyone to play with him, it makes sense to look at the situation more seriously.

Communication and trust

Games and books are becoming more serious. After all, a child at this age is no longer interested only in external manifestations of politeness, but also in the messages of such behavior: cordiality, sympathy, friendly affection. You can advise the stories of V. Oseeva “The Magic Word”, “Bad”, etc. It makes sense to discuss the behavior of the heroes of fairy tales and cartoons: the harmful Pechkin, who ate all the sweets, or the nasty Shapoklyak, who loves to arrange tricks.

Good, but not very well-mannered characters, like Winnie the Pooh or Carlson, can also become the heroes of the discussion, but it is worth  praising their positive traits , such as friendliness, cheerful character, fantasy.