WHAT AND HOW TO TEACH A CHILD? SECRETS OF EDUCATION

We all want our children to grow up educated, smart, and achieve success in life. And even if we know exactly WHAT exactly we want to lay in the “foundation” of education, we often do not know HOW to do it.

“Children do not like instructions and lectures, they want to see your actions, not listen to your words,” Mother Teresa taught. And she was right! Children notice all our words and actions and immediately adopt them.

Money account loves

The right attitude to money must be taught. The child sees how bookkeeping is done in the family, but it is not a fact that this will become an example for him. When he gets his first pocket money, he spends it on things he doesn’t get from his parents, because kids want nice little things.

What are we doing? It is better not to overdo it either with economy and excessive severity or with extravagance and permissiveness. The latter completely deprives future businessmen and managers of motivation and striving for success. Children should be encouraged to have the strength and desire to do things on their own. If you chose money as a reward, back it up with words. For example: “You helped me a lot with this job. I’m so grateful to you.” Ask if the child had enough cash to buy what he wanted to buy. If not, offer to save. Promise that you will contribute to the piggy bank if he performs well.

Important! Supervise the process of issuing and spending pocket money. The carrot and stick method is as old as the world, but it works. At the same time, perhaps the most effective punishment is the lack of encouragement.

Filtering Conversations!

You are great: spend a lot of time with loved ones. Family dinners have become a tradition, the spouse unquestioningly washes the dishes. Most conversations revolve around work, friends, acquaintances and relatives. And … here lies another danger: we do not really follow what we say. Meanwhile, the child hears: the boss is such and such, colleagues are mediocre and lazy, the mother-in-law is generally honored with the juiciest epithets. And if the baby also witnessed a family quarrel …

What are we doing? A very simple rule works here: if I allow myself to scold someone, to lie, I cannot forbid others to do so … Children will definitely want to reward someone with the epithets they hear. Yes, perhaps the boss deserves impartial words, but the younger ones do not need to hear them at all. Ripped off the tongue? Explain why this happened. The day was difficult, fatigue accumulated, etc.

Important! Explaining your actions to children is a good practice. There is no need to justify this. Suppose she promised to return from work early and go to the park with the baby, but it didn’t work out. Calmly explain what’s holding you back. Say that you will go for a walk with him another day and next time, be sure to keep your promise.

Sometimes you can’t do without punishment. How to do it right? We look at the advice of a psychologist: