NAMED THE MAIN REASON FOR THE BREAKUP OF MARRIAGES

Psychologists have named the main reason for the collapse of many marriages, having conducted a large-scale study. The results of the study were published in the journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. It turned out that the main reason for the breakdown of relations was the unjustified expectations of partners and excessive demands on each other.

Experts from Florida State University conducted a study among newlyweds and found that the higher the demands partners put on each other, the more often the relationship is doomed to break. For example, many young people entering into marriage expect that the husband or wife will invest maximum attention and care in the relationship, as well as always support each other. But if this does not happen, the spouses are disappointed.

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The study involved 135 newlywed couples who underwent special testing to assess expectations from marriage, relationship satisfaction and identify the main problems in the family. In addition, couples were also able to express their opinions about expectations from marriage, all of which were recorded on video. Four years later, a second survey was conducted, couples were asked the same questions.

In the end, experts came to the conclusion that when entering into marriage, most of the participants initially had inflated demands and expectations for each other. And if they were not justified, misunderstandings began, leading to conflicts. Psychologists believe that by making demands on a partner, a person is thus trying to compensate for the lack of some of his own resources.

But in the end, partners are faced with unjustified expectations, which later develop into deep resentment and lead to separation. Most likely, most of them initially imagine marriage as a happy, cloudless cohabitation. However, in practice this is not the case, so psychologists recommend initially not to build illusions about the nature of the partner and not to place too many demands and expectations on him.