Family life without compromise is impossible, and in order for harmony to reign in the house, it would be good for each of the spouses to master this art perfectly. American psychologists offer to try in practice 5 simple but effective ways.
Method 1. “Let’s do it your way now, but next time we will take into account my opinion”
Both partners get what they want, but not immediately, but in turn. This weekend, the family goes to her husband’s parents, and the next – go to the theater. A great way to achieve harmony in relationships!
Important! Too scrupulous accounting spoils this way of solving problems.
Method 2. “Who does – he decides”
Leon Seltzer, an American psychologist at Cleveland State University, gave a simple example: if a husband goes shopping, he makes a list and chooses a store himself.
Important! Be prepared for the fact that he forgets something or spends too much time and/or money: this is his right – the right of the one who does.
Method 3. “Let’s test my idea in two weeks”
For example, you want to manage the family budget differently, but your husband is skeptical. Offer to try your plan for two weeks, and promise that if your idea proves too expensive or inconvenient, you will revert to the old version.
Important! Men, as a rule, do not like change and theorizing. It is best to convince them in practice.
Method 4. “Do it for me and I will do something for you”
You think in vain that “bargaining is inappropriate” in family relationships. In fact, this is how you can agree on important things for both of you. If a partner knows that you are ready to do something for him (voice it in advance!), he will be more inclined to meet you halfway in an important matter for you.
Important! Never reproach your partner for being forced to do something for him: in this case, it is voluntary readiness that is valued.
Method 5. “Let’s remove the cause of the conflict”
Often those who quarrel do not even think about it but in vain! For example, you both do not like to clean the apartment. You can quarrel regularly, set a watch, etc. Or you can once again gather strength and make repairs and redevelopment in order to make cleaning as easy as possible. Give up decorative knickknacks, remove pillows and other “dust collectors”, solve the problem of clothes scattered over armchairs with the help of wardrobes. Even if you are not too fond of the minimalist style in the interior, it is better to give up design solutions in exchange for resolving the conflict.
Important! Even in this case, the apartment will have to be cleaned, but now it will be much easier to negotiate this with a partner.
