Hysteria in a child is a common phenomenon. Many parents are faced with this problem and most often try to cope with the child’s emotional outbursts in a categorical way: rudely pull, scream or ignore him at this moment. But, as practice shows, these methods are ineffective. What to do?
An adult, in order to understand and “influence” his child, needs to understand how the child’s brain works.
What for? Misunderstandings between adults and children often occur because we think differently. In adults, logical thinking prevails, while children are more emotional and figurative thinking prevails in them. The right hemisphere of the brain is responsible for imaginative thinking.
Why are we given the right hemisphere? The right hemisphere is responsible for emotions, imagination, dreams. The left hemisphere is for operations with numbers, logic, speech. Between the hemispheres is the corpus callosum, which consists of many nerve fibers, through these fibers, there is a “communication” of the two halves of the brain. Thanks to this knowledge, we can help the child “switch” from one hemisphere to another. How can this be done? And most importantly, for what?
“Join” method
Imagine a situation: late in the evening, the child does not want to go to bed, is naughty, and throws a tantrum. What do we do in such cases? Most often we say: “it’s late now, get up early tomorrow, you need to get a good night’s sleep, etc.” We are trying to reach out to our beloved, but such a harmful baby with the help of logical arguments. We “knock-knock”, but he does not hear! Why? The answer is simple. At the moment of hysteria, the child’s right hemisphere is involved, which is responsible for emotions, therefore, when logical arguments are given to him, the child hears them, understands them, but does not accept them. In such a situation, the picture looks something like the famous song sings: “You are on land, I am on the sea … we will not meet in any way.” What should be done at this moment? How to help a child?
Many parents intuitively feel what to do in such a situation. They approach the child, sit down with him, hug him. There is an “attachment” to the right hemisphere of the brain, which is responsible for emotions. At this moment, the child realizes that he is understood, and if he is understood, then he is accepted. I would like to pay tribute to the parents who do just that. They may not fully understand why they behave this way, but this is the wisest step of a parent towards a child. From a scientific point of view, it is also the most effective step in a situation where the child’s right hemisphere is involved. A few minutes in such a stay allows the child to calm down. When the child calms down, he can already think logically. At this moment, the parent can work with the baby’s left hemisphere, listen to his arguments, think about optimal problem-solving.
