The child is in love! This news causes a whole range of feelings in parents: joy, tenderness, anxiety, indignation, and even fear. How to behave in such a situation?
“She is shy like a schoolboy, fell in love like a girl” – this is what they say about adults when emotions take over and a person loses his head from love. And the children themselves really do not know how to behave and what to do with the flow of these new and exciting feelings. It’s good if dad and mom can delicately support the lover. First of all, it will benefit your relationship with the child. Having met understanding, the child realizes that adults can be trusted with the innermost. Otherwise, it will simply close in on itself. And when there is trust, it is much easier to protect from mistakes or support in a difficult situation.
Baby talk about “feelings”
The first sympathy often arises at the age of five or six. The child singles out one person among his peers, in every possible way, attracts his attention, and wants to win friendship. At the same age, children begin to play family: Sasha is a dad and goes to work, Mila is a mom, babysits the kids, and cooks soup. This is just an interest in the world of adults, from where all these “marry Olya when I grow up” come from. But even at such a tender age, serious experiences happen, strong jealousy, resentment, and anger are possible.
How to be parents?
Help your child figure out how he feels. “I don’t understand what came over me,” the kid explains outbursts of anger or jealousy. And he really cannot understand why he threw away the gift to Olesya, which she did not take. The task of an adult is to explain why this is happening, to reassure. Do not be afraid to ask about the object of sympathy, the five-year-old will gladly tell you that Dima is the strongest and most cheerful (the kindest, always shares toys, etc.). And parents will be able to understand what qualities seem to the child the most attractive in people.
What not to do?
Do not focus on the romantic component. “Is Masha from the next group your bride?”, “Put on an elegant dress, because Seryozha, your fiancé, will come!” – such adult jokes translate emotions into the plane of schemes, but at the same time they do not tell anything about feelings. The child thinks that a certain behavior is expected of him, and even feels that his parents are not serious about him. Especially if conversations about brides and grooms are conducted in the presence of strangers.
